These days it seems like every party you go to is entered in a competiton to outdo the last one. There is a vehement effort to shine. I thought the eighties was the ME decade. I am not saying it is wrong or even harmful to want to be different. I am saying don't carry it too far. Case in point is the last wedding celebration I attended was a bit of a shock. The happy (weird) couple had the presence of mind to have themselves represented on their personalized napkins in a very provocative scene. It actually caused some relatives to leave a lot earlier than they should have.